Hey everyone! 👋🏼
It’s been a week and a half since I posted the last interview with someone who suffered with mental health issues. Yesterday, I posted my first interview with a partner of someone who has mental health issues and it was very eye-opening, so if you haven’t read it yet then I recommend scrolling down to give it a read 😊
Both of my interviews last week were with amazing parents and I think it’s so important to raise more awareness about parents suffering with their mental health because it’s a very real thing, it’s more common than you will think and yet there are still so many parents out there suffering in silence which just breaks my heart. For some reason, parents feel they have to suffer in silence for fear of being judged and branded a bad parent when actually in reality that’s complete bullsh*t! There is an increasing amount of support out there for parents with mental health issues and it’s finally starting to be more openly spoken about and I hope to one day create a blog where not only parents, but anyone, can come here for a bit of reassurance, comfort and support when they are feeling low and struggling.
This week I am posting an interview I had with a lovely woman who isn’t a parent, but still very much suffers from mental health issues nonetheless. I think it’s so important to get everyone’s story out there whether they are parents or not. This woman would prefer to remain anonymous so I will refer to her as “B” throughout the interview below. B is 28 years old and has suffered with depression and anxiety for a long time which resulted in self-medicating with drugs and alcohol. She also suffers with OCD.
My interview with B:
Me: What type of mental health issue/s do you suffer from?
B: Depression, anxiety, ocd in the form of intrusive thoughts, my depression has lead me to have self medicating problems with drugs and alcohol
Me: How long have you been suffering with this?
B: It’s very hard to pin point a specific time. I used to pull certain faces a lot when I was a child which actually were tics.
Me: What are the main symptoms you experience?
B: Crying a lot, randomly. I’d be fine then I would just cry. I have dermotilamania which is an OCD skin picking disorder. When I feel anxious I pick my skin sometimes I cannot stop, I have scars all over. Intrusive dark thoughts which are terrifying. Panic attacks, not being able to get out of bed or go out of the house even just to have a conversation with someone. When I was extremely low I couldn’t even speak to my other half I just wanted to lay in the dark and be alone.
Me: How do you cope on your bad days?/What helps you to cope a little better?
B: I’m on medication which is the best thing I have ever done. I try and eat well and make sure I go out and get fresh air everyday. Nature really helps me.
Me: What support, if any, have you received from loved ones and professionals? (Do you take medication, go to counselling, have supportive family? etc) If so, has any of that helped you?
B: My other half has been my rock in all honesty. I also have seen a psychologist and my GP put me on medication
Me: If you could give advice to anyone out there suffering with mental health problems what would it be?
B: It’s terrifying and you think that no one will understand. Even if people don’t understand they don’t have to. Speak to them even if you feel stupid. It can get better.
Me: If you could give advice to anyone out there who SUPPORTS someone with mental health problems, what would it be?/How do you think someone can support someone with mental health problems as best they can?
B: I know it can be hard work but we don’t mean it. I was extremely angry and snappy before I had a breakdown and the small things that you pick up on in the change of their personality and actually mean a lot more than them just being in a bad mood. Sometimes when someone is suffering they don’t want to talk, that’s fine don’t force them, as long as they know that you are then when they are ready to talk and that you’ll be there through it is enough
Thank you so much to B for all her honest answers. ❤️